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7 Surprising Discoveries About Sex
By Lisa Wade PhD / AlterNet
1. The G-spot (Grafenberg spot).
Scientists are still arguing about whether the G-spot exists, but one theory is that the coin-sized area on the anterior wall of the vagina might be the Skene’s glands. If so, this explains why some women who report G-spot sensations also experience female ejaculation, a pleasurable expulsion of a (mystery) fluid upon orgasm. This is because the Skene’s are the female equivalent of the male prostate gland, which produces a fluid that contributes to the content of semen.
How to find the G-spot :
2. There’s no such thing as a “vaginal orgasm.”
Yes, some women have orgasms in response to penile-vaginal sex, but that doesn’t make it a vaginal orgasm. All orgasms are clitoral orgasms. Sometimes women have orgasms in the absence of clitoral stimulation. Women, after all, can have orgasms in their sleep just like men. If they can have orgasms in the absence of any stimulation at all, it makes sense this can also happen in response to a wide range of experiences. When a woman has an orgasm because someone is caressing her face, however, we don’t call it a “face orgasm.” If she has one because someone is rubbing her thigh, we don’t call a “thigh orgasm.”
3. Breasts are sexual organs after all.
You’ve long suspected it and now we know it’s true: breasts are reproductive and sexual organs. A study using functional magnetic resonance imaging—a process that allows us to watch changes in blood flow to parts of the brain in real time—found that the part of the brain responsible for recognizing genital sensation also responds to nipple stimulation.
To my knowledge the study hasn’t been repeated with male subjects, but given that men and women overwhelmingly have the same anatomy and physiology, I’m going to go on record predicting that the same findings would apply.
4. Concern about penis size is mostly a guy thing ...
Almost half of men say they would prefer to have a larger penis. For these guys, worrying about penis size is correlated not just with anxiety about sex, but feeling less positive about their overall attractiveness. Concern about penis size even influences how a man feels about the handsomeness of his face.
Meanwhile, 85% of women with male partners are perfectly happy with the size of his penis. I know of no research correlating female perceptions of handsomeness with penis size, but I’m gonna guess that’s a guy thing too.
5. ...and mostly unfounded.
In contrast to the examples people encounter in pornography, the average penis is a humble 5.57 inches long when erect. More than two-thirds of men fall within one inch of the average and 95% fall within two. So, despite the fact that half of men are worried about their penis size, the majority are average, pretty darn close to average, or above average. The rest shouldn’t worry too much about it. See #4. That said…
6. The clitoris is much bigger than you think.
If men come in two types—growers and showers—women are non-disclosers. Textbooks often describe the clitoris as a cylindrical structure found at the top of a woman’s vulva. Sometimes it’s described as the “size of a pea," and it’s almost always described as small.
In fact, the average clitoris is about as long as the average penis. The part that can be seen is just the tip of a long structure that separates into two branches that lay on either side of the urethra and vagina. The entire clitoris is erectile, adding to the pleasure of vaginal intercourse for women.
7. You probably have a pretty good idea what it feels like to be the other sex.
While we often think of male and female sexual anatomy as opposite, our bodies aren’t as different as they may seem. Nor are our orgasms, it turns out.
The external genitalia of both men and women come from the same fetal tissue. What will eventually become the scrotum in men becomes the outer labia in women; the shaft of the penis shares its origins with the inner labia; the erectile tissue in the penis is the same erectile tissue we find in the clitoris; and the head of the penis and head of the clitoris come from the same tissue as well (fun fact: this means that the head of the clitoris has the same number of nerve endings as the head of the penis, just more densely packed). So, the sensations we experience when those parts of our bodies are touched probably aren’t that different.
Likewise, in both men and women the experience of orgasm involves muscle contractions in the pelvic floor starting at about 0.8 per second with a declining interval until resolution. Both Kinsey and Masters and Johnson argued that sexual response was quite similar between the sexes.
About the author :
Lisa Wade holds an M.S. and Ph.D. in sociology and an M.A. in human sexuality.
She is a professor at Occidental College in Los Angeles.
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Amazing Facts About The Vagina
by Steve Moramarco
1- 8000 Nerve Endings in the Clitoris
What we commonly refer to as the vagina is actually made up of several parts. The outer area is called the vulva, made up of the inner and outer labia (“lips”), the clitoris, the clitoral hood, and the urethra. The true “vagina” is actually the interior area, which includes the cervix, uterus, ovaries, and fallopian tubes. The clitoris is the organ exclusively reserved for a woman's pleasure during sex – as so, it contains 8,000 nerve-endings.
This sounds all well and good compared to the glans of the penis, which has only 3500. But, if you're comparing nerve-endings to the ENTIRE penis, including foreskin, that number, er, jacks up to 24,000. (Sorry, ladies - thought you had us beat.)
2- Sharks and Vaginas Have Something In Common
No, it's (thankfully) not teeth – instead, they both have a compound called squalane, which is found in shark livers and also in the vagina as a lubricant. When a woman is aroused, she secrets the squalane as her clitoris and labia swell up, and the interior vagina lengthens as it prepares for entry for the penis, or, as Borat would say, “Sexytime!”
3- The Vagina Can Expand Up to 200%
While there is no “standard size” for a woman's vagina, the average is about 3 inches wide and 3.5 inches deep. However, it is not rigid. In fact, the vagina can expand up to 200% in size, making it possible for a tiny sperm to fertilize an embryo and grow into a fully formed baby, be delivered, and return to nearly its original shape. However, factors such as age, weight, and smoking can cause a vagina to “sag” and even fall out (but, thankfully, this can be fixed.)
4- There IS a G-Spot !!
Yes, there is such a thing as the magical “G” Spot – an area inside the actual vagina responsible for an intense orgasm even stronger than that of the clitoris. How do you find the “G” Spot? Grab your partner and lie down on your back. Have he (or she) put their index finger inside, and make a “come here” motion. Are you suddenly seeing skyrockets in flight? Congratulations, then you've found your “G” Spot!
5- You Can “Exercise” Your Vagina
In 1948, a man named Arnold Kegel changed women's lives forever when he published a pelvic floor exercise that quickly became synonymous with his name. Dubbed the Kegel exercise, it is a way to strengthen the “pubococcygeus muscles of the pelvic floor,” (basically doctor-speak for the vagina muscles) which can help a woman cope during childbirth, fend off urinary infections, and even increase orgasmic pleasure. To do the exercise, you must first recognize the muscles you need by stopping urination in mid-stream. Next, empty the bladder and lie on your back. Slowly tense and relax these muscles (but not the buttocks) starting with 5-second intervals and gradually increase the duration to 10. Repeat 3 times a day. The good news is that men can also benefit from Kegel exercises, helping prevent premature ejaculation and lengthening and strengthening erections. Okay, everybody on your back!
6- Don't Wash Your Vagina !
No we're not talking about basic external hygiene, we are talking about putting any external cleaning aides (such as douches) inside. Yes, the vagina is full of bacteria, but it is good bacteria that keeps a woman healthy, and the vagina cleans itself like a well-regulated machine. Women used to grow up believing their “lady parts” were unclean, but modern science has proven this wrong. For you science geeks out there, the pH of the vagina is about 4 – the same for wine and tomatoes. Don't %$^ it up by douching!
7- Don't Shave Your Pubic Hair
To Shave or Not to Shave, that is the question. While the purpose of other areas of the vagina are more-or-less understood, when it comes to pubic hair, the answers are less clear-cut. We are not even sure why humans have pubic hair, since we're the only species on the planet to have it. It is believed to have something to do with the trapping of pheromones – the odors we secrete during sexual arousal. There are also theories that it helps with lubrication between partners during sex, or that it helped keep the genitals warm during prehistoric times. Whatever it's for, suddenly it seems like it is the norm for adult women to shave most or all of it off. This trend began in the 90s but accelerated in the 2000s where, according to a recent study, many young women today find pubic hair “repulsive.” They receive their cues not from men, it goes on to say, but from other women who also shave.
However, like most things we have on the body, pubic hair does have a purpose. It acts as a barrier, protecting against potentially harmful bacteria and viruses entering the body. And the regular act of shaving can lead to skin irritation and damage. One research also found 60 per cent of women had at least one health complication incurred from pubic hair removal, typically epidermal abrasion (invisible cuts to the skin) and ingrown hairs. It was also shown to cause severe skin irritation, infections, genital warts and – according to an older study – increase the spread and transmission of STIs.
So what should you do? The answer is: think before shaving all your pubic hairs.
Author's page : http://www.awaken.com/2012/07/true-or-false-women-have-7-erogenous-zones/
True or False: Do Women Have 7 Erogenous Zones ?
by Serj Sagan
If you have ever watched "Friends" then you may have seen the episode where Monica gives Chandler sex advice and in a funny way talks about the 7 erogenous zones of women.
True or False ? Do Women Have 7 Erogenous Zones ?
Is this a real fact or is this just a make belief idea that was used for the show. We will discuss this idea and find out whether there are these zones and if they do in fact send women into orgasmic heaven.
The first thing we discovered is that there are more than 7 erogenous zones as different women’s bodies have different zones.
The ears are the first of the erogenous zones. Nibbling, sucking, or licking the earlobes specifically can send waves of pleasure through a woman. Some women also enjoy having warm air blown into their ears, whispering, or licking, sucking and nibbling the ear itself. This is an area that can stimulate your lover very strongly, but must be approached with some care. First of all, not all women enjoy this. Second, many women will enjoy this more if it is done later in foreplay; so don’t start with the ears, perhaps do it after you’ve covered the neck, lips and nipples.
Lips are the second erogenous zone that we will go over. Lips are perhaps the first step of foreplay and are most likely to last throughout the whole love-making. Kissing is significantly important in making a woman have the difference between an “eh” orgasm and an “oh, wow!” orgasm. Kissing must be done right. If you are unsure about your kissing expertise then sometimes the best thing you can do is let go of you inhibitions and let your feelings tell your mouth what to do, i.e. you stay out of it. Don’t try to think, “well, we haven’t tried this way of kissing”, or “we have been doing this one for a while, let’s try something else.” No, let your passions lead the way. That being said, having knowledge of how to kiss and especially of how your lady likes to be kissed is usually better at sending your lady into ecstasy.
The neck is also a very stimulating area for a woman. This area perhaps is one of the more difficult to get right. First, different women respond to neck stimulation differently. Some prefer lighter, gentle kissing. Others women prefer to be ravaged on the neck almost like a vampire bite. On top of that each woman has different spots on her neck that send those sparks of electricity through her body. And as if that was not enough each woman has a different time that she will respond to this stimulation, some enjoy it throughout lovemaking others prefer it toward the end, when they are close to orgasm, and still others prefer it during foreplay. This is an area that should be practiced with a long term partner during casual sex, that way when it is time to turn up the heat, you will have the neck mastered as well.
Nipples, areola, and the breasts are an excellent and amazing erogenous area of 3 zones. It is quite easy to stimulate the breast area on any woman although proper technique is something that will develop with time. If you need some basic tips you can start by sucking on the nipple, while you are sucking twist your tongue in a clockwise direction around the nipple, start the twisting slow, then go faster and faster. One thing to watch out for on the nipple is that different women can take different amounts of pressure before it becomes painful for them. Another thing to do is while you are doing the sucking tongue thing, take as much of both breasts in your hands as you can and begin to squeeze at the same time. This one also is one to watch out for as far as how much pressure the woman’s breast will take before it becomes painful. This is one of those really strange body parts that mysteriously is very pleasurable for a man to touch.
Buttocks or Anus is another erogenous zone. This is one of those however that cannot be used by everyone and especially not every time. The butt cheeks are excellent place to squeeze or even slap in the right situations. The butt hole is another area altogether. This one requires foremost, trust. Your girl must totally trust that you would not do anything she wouldn’t like. If she doesn’t, instead of bringing her closer to an orgasm, she will concentrate on the finger that you have on her butt hole. Also you must be pretty confident that your girl actually wipes her butt really well or she took a shower, otherwise she will instantly know that you just touched something that made you disgusted. If all of these are okay, do not actually stick your finger in the hole; just apply pressure to the area and do a tiny but rapid vibration, and do this closer to her climax…do not do this too early in your lovemaking. On a final note, if she tells you that she doesn’t like it, do not try it again that session, and not all girls enjoy this so perhaps do not try it ever again.
Feet and toes are another one of the erogenous zones. This is actually somewhat similar to the above because some women do in fact find that their toes/feet are an extremely personal, sensual, and pleasurable zone; just as many do find it to be too sensitive (ticklish) or not pleasurable at all because many women have a complex of one kind or another with their feet. Some have big feet, others have feet deformities, and still others can’t get their feet to smell good, or at least they think that. If your girl actually loves her feet being touched then, provided that you also enjoy it, by all means lick and suck and touch them. Sometimes it can be helpful to ask the girl for advice on how she prefers them to be touched, she will more than likely enjoy giving you “orders.”
The genitalia has 5 zones in itself, including the clitoris, anterior fornix or a-spot, u-spot or lips of the vagina, the Grafenberg spot or more commonly known as the G-spot, and the uterus. This is where most men spend their time so there is little to discuss here.
Now that you know that there are so many more options for creating pleasure in your woman, other than the few that you already know about, why not try a few of them to pleasure your girl so much that she will be willing to pleasure you in any way that you could ever want ?
Jules Kim, a jeweler known for designing pieces Rooney Mara wore in “The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo” as well as for Beyonce and Rihanna, says, “I believe sexuality is not just of the body. Massaging the ego can be just as titillating as stroking a breast. Erogenous zones are about opening up people’s worlds, and offering possibilities.” Jules, whose avant-garde jewelry, she says, “gilds the body,” elaborates: “It’s the dance that’s so sexy. A glance, a chance touch — the in-between moments before the act of sex that makes you want the person more and more. It’s more complex than insinuating the sexual act; it’s about leaving a door open for opportunities.” In other words, seduction is an art form, and it’s practiced most on the imagination.
Kiss The Backs Of The Knees
“It’s not particularly groundbreaking, but it feels good,” says poet and academic Caroline Hagood. What Caroline calls the “body’s little surprises” is a major theme in her collection of poetry “Lunatic Speaks,” “With behind the knees, I guess it’s just the surprise of being touched in a place that almost never gets touched. It’s startling. I think it’s similar to the moment when you use a mirror to see any part of your body you don’t normally look at. I found out that I have a strange constellation of freckles on my back the other day, and that’s just another one of the body’s little surprises.” So startling, unexpected touches can be extremely arousing.
Kiss The Stomach
Trend forecaster and stylist Jenna Perry says any attention paid to her stomach drives her wild. Since Jenna has chiseled abs and a pin-up girl’s tiny waist, I couldn’t help but wonder if the stomach was her erogenous zone because she feels particularly confident about this body part. “Yes,” she admitted. “Also,” she adds, “My stomach is really ticklish, but not in a bad way.” The message here: body parts women feel especially good about deserve a little extra attention. The combination of a woman’s personal confidence and another’s adoration is hot!
Kiss The Arch Of The Foot
This is my spot.If someone asked me to choose between a foot massage and sex, it would be a hard choice. Put the two together, and I will be sent over the edge: pressure applied to the arch of my foot while I’m having sex is a surefire way to get me to climax. If I had to hazard a guess why the foot is such a turn on — aside from there being 7,000 nerve endings in the feet — I’d say I associate my feet with running, something I do that gives me endorphins and makes me feel strong at the same time.
Kiss The Forehead
Although kissing the forehead might seem like a gentle and endearing act of affection, it can also be a major source of arousal. Actress and modelKelly Rae Le Gault explains, “When a man kisses my forehead — let’s be real — these aren’t your mama’s kisses. My lower back will just sear like this and it’s almost too much to bear!” She goes on to say that she finds a “crazy connection” between her lower back and forehead. When her forehead gets those soft, ticklish kisses, “My back just above my butt will just throb like it’s aching to be touched. I can’t be the only one who experiences this, right?” Is she? Try it and let her know.
Kiss The Ears
Heavy breathing into my ears — the full ear, not just the lobe — creates an intense sensation for me. Feeling his breath in my ear makes me feel connected to my partner and sends chills down my spine.
Kiss The Nape (Neck And Back)
Sara Femenella, co-founder and editor of Screen & Paper magazine, likes a partner to pay special attention to the nape of her neck. “The moment between feeling breath then feeling lips, tongue, teeth is incredible. It’s the combination of anticipation and pleasure foreshadowing what’s to come.” For Life Coach Teresa Wiles DiGregorio, the back of her neck is “second to none in sensitivity.” She elaborates, “I thoroughly enjoy a gentle touch there. A lick, a tickle, a touch: every gentle stroke is noticed and appreciated.”
Kiss The Mouth
Nora Zelevansky, author of the recent book “Semi-Charmed Life” jokes that her mouth is where she gets most turned on “because that’s where mozzarella sticks go and I can’t really think of anything that gets me hotter than a plate of fried cheese with marinara sauce.” I value that this funny lady doesn’t take sex so seriously and just has fun with it. “I think my real erogenous zone is probably my funny bone,” she told me. “A good dry joke is more likely to attract me than anything.”
About The Author :
Serj Sagan is the CEO and owner of a Male Enhancement Pills company.
Author's page : http://innerself.com/content/personal/relationships/couples/sexuality/12616-does-the-g-spot-exist.html
Does The G-spot Exist ?
by Jane Chalmers, Western Sydney University
The G-spot orgasm and female ejaculation
It is perhaps one of the most controversial debates in sexual function: is there or isn’t there a G-spot? And if there is, how do we find it?
The G-spot is a purported highly erogenous area of the vagina that, when stimulated, may lead to strong sexual arousal and orgasm. Although the concept of vaginal orgasms has been around since the 17th century, the term G-spot wasn’t coined until the 1980s. The G-spot is named after Eric Grafenberg, a German gynecologist, whose 1940s research documented this sensitive region within the vagina in some women.
The controversy surrounding the G-spot comes about because there is no consensus over just what the G-spot is, and while some women can orgasm through stimulation of the G-spot, others find it incredibly uncomfortable.
Where is the G-spot ?
The G-spot lies on the anterior wall of the vagina, about 5-8cm above the opening to the vagina. It is easiest to locate if a woman lies on her back and has someone else insert one or two fingers into the vagina with the palm up. Using a “come here” motion, the tissue surrounding the urethra, called the urethral sponge, will begin to swell.
This swelling area is the G-spot. At first, this touch may make the woman feel as though she needs to urinate, but after a few seconds may turn into a pleasurable sensation. For some women, however, this stimulation remains uncomfortable, no matter how long the stimulation continues.
The G-spot orgasm and female ejaculation
Physiological responses from a G-spot orgasm differ to those responses seen in clitoral orgasms. During clitoral orgasms, the end of the vagina (near the opening) balloons out; however, in G-spot orgasms, the cervix pushes down into the vagina.
Up to 50% of women expel various kinds of fluid from their urethra during sexual arousal or sexual intercourse. Studies have shown there are generally three types of fluid that are produced: urine, a dilute form of urine (known as “squirting”), and female ejaculate.
While some women may expel these fluids during arousal or sex, they are most commonly expelled during orgasm, and particularly through G-spot orgasm. So what is the difference between these fluids?
The release of urine during penetrative sex is usually as a result of stress urinary incontinence. Some women experience no other symptoms of stress urinary incontinence, such as leakage when sneezing, coughing or laughing, but will leak during sex.
“Squirting” is the leakage of a urine-like substance during orgasm. It is thought to occur because of strong muscle contractions surrounding the bladder during female orgasm.
Female ejaculate, most commonly reported with G-spot orgasm, is a much different substance: women describe the fluid as looking like watered-down fat-free milk and report producing about a teaspoon in volume during orgasm. The contents of female ejaculate have been chemically analysed and found that it closely resembles secretions from the male prostate. This has led to many suspecting that glands known as the female prostate (formerly Skene’s glands) produce this ejaculate.
What could the G-spot be?
The G-spot is not a single, distinct entity. Much debate exists in the research field as to just what the G-spot is, and how it can produce orgasm.
The G-spot is located in the clitourethrovaginal complex – the area where the clitoris, urethra and vagina all meet up. There are several structures in this complex that could produce pleasurable sensations when stimulated – the G-spot might reflect the stimulation of just one structure, or multiple structures at once. Two structures in particular have been hotly debated and stand out as likely candidates for producing G-spot orgasms: the female prostate and the clitoris.
The female prostate lies within the urethral sponge, a cushion of tissue surrounding the urethra. The urethral sponge and female prostate are highly innervated, which may explain their sensitivity when stimulated.
The clitoris is more than meets the eye: we now know this organ extends far beyond what is visible externally. Apart from where the urethra and vagina touch, the clitoris somewhat encircles the urethra. Mechanical stimulation of the G-spot may in fact be stimulating the internal portion of the clitoris.
So, is the G-spot fact or fiction ?
The G-spot certainly exists in some women. However, not all women will find the stimulation of the G-spot pleasurable.
Just because a woman is not aroused when the G-area is stimulated, this does not mean she is in any way sexually dysfunctional. Sexuality and arousal have clear physiological and psychological links. But, as human beings, we are all made slightly anatomically and physiologically different.
In the same way that what I consider “blue” may not be the exact same “blue” you perceive, an orgasm in one woman is not the same as an orgasm in any other woman. It is a unique experience. And although you and I both see blue through our eyes, the complexities of human sexuality and the female reproductive organs mean women may achieve orgasm in multiple ways.
Some women are unable to orgasm in the presence of a partner, but have no difficulty with orgasm with masturbation. Some women can orgasm only with clitoral stimulation, while others can orgasm through vaginal stimulation alone. There are reports of women who experience orgasm through the stimulation of the foot, and Grafenberg detailed in his report women who experienced arousal through ear penile penetration (but these reports are yet to be replicated!).
You are not abnormal or strange or dysfunctional if you cannot find your G-spot. Similarly, you are not abnormal or strange or dysfunctional if you expel fluid during arousal or sex. Sexual arousal, desire and pleasure are individual: if you are unable to find your G-area, work on finding something that does fulfil your sexual needs.
About The Author :
Jane Chalmers, Lecturer in Physiotherapy, Western Sydney University.
She is part of the Body in Mind Research Group at the University of South Australia. She is investigating neuroimmune responses in women with localised, provoked vestibulodynia.
Author's page :http://www.oddee.com/item_98061.aspx
10 Things You Probably Didn't Know About Sex
by Jill Harness
1- Genetics Can Affect When a Person Will Lose His or Her Virginity
Obviously, each person makes the individual decision of when to have sex for the first time, but recent studies show that your genetics can play a role in how early you make the decision. In fact, a study of twins who were separated at birth shows that there is a strong genetic link in the age a person chooses to lose his or her virginity.
"It's not like there's a gene for having sex at a certain date," says Nancy Segal, a psychologist at California State University in Fullerton, who led the new study. But inheritable traits such as impulsiveness do affect the decision, although social mores play a major role as well. In fact, there was less of a consistent genetic effect in twins born before 1948 than those born after 1960.
2- The Clitoris is Mostly an Internal Organ
By now, most people know about the clitoris and where it is located…or at least, they know about the tip of the organ. While you might think that little bump that drives women crazy is the whole enchilada, as it turns out, that's just the tip of the iceberg. In fact, the majority of the clitoris is located within the pelvis and, when erect, it actually wraps around the vagina –making the vagina and sex more pleasurable (for both parties) as the woman gets more excited.
So why does everyone think of the clitoris as only the little bump on the outside? Well, for one thing, it's role as the visible part certainly makes it the most noticeable, but more so, researchers didn't start to learn about the amazing expanses of the organ until they were able to view it through an MRI machine, something they couldn't do until the 90's. It wasn't until 2009 that the world was introduced to a complete 3D sonogram image of the organ.
Of course, the little bump we're all familiar with is pretty darn important. In fact, it has over 8,000 nerve fibers –more than twice the number found in the head of a penis.
3- Sperm is Surprisingly Nutritious
At around 15 calories per “serving,” sperm contains the same protein as the white of a large egg, along with vitamin C, calcium, magnesium, potassium, vitamin B12 and zinc. Sure, it might not be as healthy as a multi-vitamin, but few vitamins come with such pleasurable effects.
4- Sex Can Help You Stay Healthy
Having sex once or twice a week can actually boost your immune system, as it increases the levels of immunoglobulin A in the body. Immunoglobulin A is an antibody that lives in your saliva and mucous linings that helps stop colds and flu before they start, by fighting the viruses off before they get past your nose or mouth.
5- Having Sex Can Make Women Look More Attractive
When women have sex their estrogen levels double, making their hair shinier and skin softer. “Estrogen seems to be the fountain of youth for women,” says Patti Britton, PhD, clinical sexologist.
Additionally, increased blood flow from an orgasm makes their cheeks more rosy and their lips redder –although, apparently, only in warmer temperatures. So if you ladies out there want a quick beauty treatment, consider heading to a steamy bedroom rather than the beauty salon.
6- If You Are Sexually Active, You'll Probably Get an STD
Studies show over 80% of all sexually active adults will contract an STD at some point, although most won't notice. That's because 80% of all people who contract one of the 25 varieties of STDs don't show any symptoms and most don't even realize they have one. In fact, the American Social Health Association estimates that 80% of sexually active people contract the Human Papillomavirus (HPV) at one point in their life. While those statistics were taken before the HPV vaccine was released, the vaccine only prevents two of the most dangerous strains of the disease, meaning even those vaccinated can still catch one of the many other strains.
While the numbers sound scary, the upside is that most people who contract an STD won't suffer any negative effects as a result.
7- Birth Control Affects Women's Taste in Men
The pill may have done wonders for women's lib, but it turns out it might also be hurting their sex lives. A recent study has shown that women who are on the pill get with partners they find less attractive and worse in bed because these men offer better opportunities for a long-term relationship. While the women were less sexually satisfied, they were, on average, much happier with the non-sexual aspects of their relationships. Additionally, women on the pill stayed in relationships for an average of two years longer than those who were not on the medication.
Researchers believe this is because the pill affects the chemistry of a woman's brain, making them more interested in obtaining a long-term relationship than finding someone they would be more sexually compatible with.
8- Diet Can Affect the Flavor of Semen
Gentlemen, if you want your lady to be more orally fixated, you might want to consider switching your diet for her pleasure. As it turns out, sugary fruits like kiwi, watermelon and pineapple make semen taste lighter, while beer and coffee leave it with a strong, bitter flavor. Meat and fish can make it taste more buttery, while acidic fruits like cranberries, plums and liquors can give it a sugary flavor. Whatever you do, don't chug milk before hitting the hay as dairy can cause semen to taste foul due to its high bacterial levels.
9- Female Sexuality is Still Largely a Mystery
There is, as yet, no scientific consensus on whether or not the G-Spot exists or if female ejaculation is real. Critics of the G-Spot largely focus their arguments on the fact that because so many women do not experience vaginal orgasms, that it must not exist. Additionally, they point out that there is no area inside the vagina with more nerve endings than any other area. They also use the discovery about the clitoris being internal to argue that vaginal orgasms are caused by the same organ, not a separate erogenous zone.
Proponents of the G-Spot argue that the vagina does have an erogenous zone that swells up when excited and that this area provides an additional lubricant when it is sexually aroused. They also show that ultrasound studies show changes to the area during sex.
The debate on female ejaculation is often tied in with the G-Spot argument as proponents argue that ejaculation is tied in with stimulation of the G-Spot. While it is widely accepted that some women have been known to gush fluid during orgasm, the debate largely centers around what the fluid is actually made of. Many critics claim the fluid is simply urine. Some proponents argue that it is a separate substance, while others debate that it is urine; but urine is filled with a unique selection of chemicals, making it qualify as a sexually-induced ejaculation regardless of the connection with the bladder.
10- Women's Sex Organs Are Now Being Studied More Often
There are a few main reasons that so little is known about female sexuality. For one, the clitoris, the G-Spot and female ejaculation, are all completely unrelated to reproduction and are instead all about pleasure (as a matter of fact, the clitoris is the only organ that exists solely for the purpose of pleasure), making many scientists believe they deserve less interest than the ovaries, vagina, penis or testicles. Of course, now that these sex organs are pretty well understood, scientists can feel free to move on to understanding the more complex role of non-reproductive sexual functions.
Another reason has to do with the times. You'll notice that the majority of the research on these aspects of female sex organs has been performed only within the last twenty years. In that time, two major changes have occurred –there are now far more women doctors and scientists than ever before, and technology has only now been afforded certain views of the human body. Naturally, females display more interest in what makes the female body go gaga, and without devices like the MRI, many discoveries, like that of the internal clitoris, would have been impossible to find.
Thanks to these changes, it's pretty likely that the understanding of female sexuality will increase drastically in the next few decades.
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10 Coolest Flirting Facts You Wish You Knew
1- The most flirtatious people get the most attention
The person who gets the most attention in a public place is not the most attractive but the most flirtatious.
On average, someone sending out 35 flirtatious signals per hour will be approached by four romantic prospects during that time period. Now, 35 signals per hour might seem like a lot, but whether she knows it or not, a good flirt sends out signals almost constantly--from something as simple as tilting her head to the side, stroking her arm, or leaning slightly toward the person she likes.
2- It takes three glances to send a signal
You'll have to look at someone three times before they'll get the hint that you're into them. One trick to get someone looking at you more often than they might otherwise, is to hold their gaze for two to three seconds. (That may not sound like long, but if you time it, it will seem like an eternity; nonromantic glances last only 1.18 seconds on average.)
3- A smile with crow's feet is a good hint
A smile with crow's feet in the corner of the eyes is a sign that someone is genuinely happy. If someone's smiling at you and you don't see them, that means someone's forcing a “fake smile” and would rather not be talking to you. Smiles with crow's feet are the best to see, and to give.
4- Flirting is easier via email
With Facebook friends, Twitter followers and Skype video chats, it is now all too easy to flirt with strangers and engage in sexual fantasy. Digital dalliance has entered the mainstream.
For instance, sexting — sending sexually suggestive text messages or photos — is usually thought of as a teenage pastime. But according to a report from the Pew Research Center's Internet and American Life Project based on a representative sample of 2,252 adults surveyed by telephone in May 2010, it is far more common among people ages 18 to 29.
Nearly one-third of that group say they have received sexually suggestive or nude photos of someone they know, and 13 percent say they have sent them, the report said.
5- Sometimes, flirty gestures aren't what they seem
Research has shown that men tend to routinely mistake friendly behavior for flirting.
6- The direction of the feet may give you a clue
Feet typically point in the direction they want to go, so if someone's feet are pointed toward you, that's good. If they're pointed away from you, that's bad. If someone's feet are pointed in toward each other, that “pigeon toes” stance is actually a good sign, since it's a subconscious attempt to shrink in size and appear harmless, approachable ... which may very well mean someone likes you, a lot.
7- Mimicry is a sign of attraction
We mimic the actions of people we're attracted to. So if you want to gauge whether someone's attracted to you, check your watch—then see if they check theirs. Or scratch your arm, then see if they scratch theirs. Or cross your legs, and see if they cross theirs. This means they're subconsciously trying to get in sync with you, which is a good sign.
8- Flirting is good for your health
Studies show that flirting men and women have more white blood cells in their body. These cells are known to boost immunity and overall health.
9- Watch out, you can overdo it
According to the Social Issues Research Centre, the most common mistake people make when flirting is maintaining too much eye contact.
10- Friendly or flirty ?
Friends may act friendly, but flirters will flaunt their assets. That's why women will fiddle with or flip their hair, or find an excuse to “parade” in front of someone by strutting toward the bathroom, or lick their lips. Meanwhile, men may stretch, or stuff their hands in their pockets, which conveniently broadens their chest.
The science of falling in love
Author's page : http://www.collective-evolution.com/2015/09/19/10-things-you-didnt-know-about-vaginas/
10 Things You Didn’t Know About Vaginas
by Joe Martino
It’s something every woman has, and that’s been crucial in getting people to read this – a vagina. Sometimes not all that easy to talk about because our culture laughs and giggles about private parts (unfortunately), but today we thought we’d share some cool facts about the vagina in this article.
The infographic below was created by the people over at HB Health of Knightsbridge for your viewing and learning pleasure.
Amazing, don't you think ?
Useful links :
100 Hot Sex Positions (PDF, 196 pages, 30 MB) : download HERE
Sexual Secrets - Alchemy of Ecstasy (PDF, 353 pages, 18 MB) : download HERE
A Guide to Better Sex (PDF, 166 pages, 26 MB) : download HERE
The Multi Orgasmic Man (PDF, 109 pages, 1.7 MB) : download HERE
The Anal Sex Position Guide (PDF, 177 pages, 30 MB) : download HERE
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